because i am stupid
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norcumilife took notice of the last entry.
Scene: Mel in Forge of Souls, random drop of Titanium band(s?) of something. Belt, I think. Nice purple. I'm lagging a little, and could NOT figure out why when I was hitting the "smack things around" buttons the animation was me sitting around doing nothing. So I make a quick compare and see yes, this is an increase in strength, all green increase, hooray need and move on.
Turns out it was a tanking belt, the tank sent a message wanting to know if I was going to need every tanking thing that drops since that makes this a moot run for her - and then leaves the party. I'm still sitting there trying to type "what, what?" in between killing things, so it's more like "wa11289t, w44" before I gave up. -_-;
I feel kinda really bad about this. All I saw was no negative changes and no MAJOR changes to current gear, since when there's a +20 odd points, that usually means I'm upping a stat I don't use, and since I try to be on spec - siiigh. I would've been happy to trade back, I just - argh. And I feel guilty, since I don't tend to think dodge is a tank spec (i was under the impression it was all defense and stam, and why I should be caring about crit rating still confuses me, but i guess I can read up on that somewhere when I do care enough) - but most of all, because I am collecting tank gear. Not enough to snag from someone in legitimate need, I think and hope, but still. Arg. If she's damn well WAITED -
I guess I'm also hurt by the fact that it was a roll of the dice. I don't mind someone telling me I'm missing something obvious, but I guess I expect to be given a chance to correct things. Maybe. Not sure. And is that entitlement? I also don't know. Not to mention was it entitlement on her part to think that since a "tanking item" dropped she's automatically get it? I don't know that one either, but since it puts someone else in a bad light instead of me I'm shying away from it.
Also feel guilty that when a guildy (who was there to help explain some of what the hell I'm being stupid about, thankfully in a very nice way) and I were running the earth boss earlier, the plate dps armor came up. I was in a hurry to juggle things IRL, so I smacked need and did what needed doing IRL. Came back to find I'd gotten the needy achievement - which only the guildy had rolled against.
Mel already has the plate dps armor. I was doing this to make sure the guild person could get it no matter what, but since he was the only one rolling for it, it seems kinda condescending. I mean, yes, I did trade it right the hell away, but does that take something from the experience/joy of winning their own damn thing from them? or am I being crazy again?
I suspect the latter, just.... meh.
Scene: Mel in Forge of Souls, random drop of Titanium band(s?) of something. Belt, I think. Nice purple. I'm lagging a little, and could NOT figure out why when I was hitting the "smack things around" buttons the animation was me sitting around doing nothing. So I make a quick compare and see yes, this is an increase in strength, all green increase, hooray need and move on.
Turns out it was a tanking belt, the tank sent a message wanting to know if I was going to need every tanking thing that drops since that makes this a moot run for her - and then leaves the party. I'm still sitting there trying to type "what, what?" in between killing things, so it's more like "wa11289t, w44" before I gave up. -_-;
I feel kinda really bad about this. All I saw was no negative changes and no MAJOR changes to current gear, since when there's a +20 odd points, that usually means I'm upping a stat I don't use, and since I try to be on spec - siiigh. I would've been happy to trade back, I just - argh. And I feel guilty, since I don't tend to think dodge is a tank spec (i was under the impression it was all defense and stam, and why I should be caring about crit rating still confuses me, but i guess I can read up on that somewhere when I do care enough) - but most of all, because I am collecting tank gear. Not enough to snag from someone in legitimate need, I think and hope, but still. Arg. If she's damn well WAITED -
I guess I'm also hurt by the fact that it was a roll of the dice. I don't mind someone telling me I'm missing something obvious, but I guess I expect to be given a chance to correct things. Maybe. Not sure. And is that entitlement? I also don't know. Not to mention was it entitlement on her part to think that since a "tanking item" dropped she's automatically get it? I don't know that one either, but since it puts someone else in a bad light instead of me I'm shying away from it.
Also feel guilty that when a guildy (who was there to help explain some of what the hell I'm being stupid about, thankfully in a very nice way) and I were running the earth boss earlier, the plate dps armor came up. I was in a hurry to juggle things IRL, so I smacked need and did what needed doing IRL. Came back to find I'd gotten the needy achievement - which only the guildy had rolled against.
Mel already has the plate dps armor. I was doing this to make sure the guild person could get it no matter what, but since he was the only one rolling for it, it seems kinda condescending. I mean, yes, I did trade it right the hell away, but does that take something from the experience/joy of winning their own damn thing from them? or am I being crazy again?
I suspect the latter, just.... meh.
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Date: 2010-11-19 04:09 pm (UTC).... how did i MISS that?!?!? Ooooh dear. Ok. Well. That DOES explain some things. I tend to look at crit rating and dodge as secondary stats for number crunchers, and I know I have an intellectual disconnect where I think "dodge=mincing away before getting hit=based on agility=something rogues do!", prolly from something misguided in my D&D days, and - argh.
seriously? THANK YOU. It would've been months before I noticed that.